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I realize that long distance relationship advice is not a topic you were expecting to see from me today. How to store muffins? Sure. But how to survive a long distance relationship? Stay with me here.

Practical advice and tips for how to make a long distance relationship work. A must read for anyone in a long distance relationship! @wellplated

My experience in a long distance relationship isn’t something I mention often on my blog, but it’s topic I’m asked about frequently outside of it, because Ben and I—a happily married couple of four years—spent almost two years living in separate countries. To this day, I still receive questions and emails from friends (and friends of friends) facing long distance relationships of their own. Though each situation is unique, for the most part, every person who contacts me wants to know the same thing:

How’d you do it?

Over the weekend, I received a request for long distance relationship advice from a reader who spotted in an old post that Ben and I had spent a significant time apart while we were dating. When I found myself copy/pasting a reply about our long distance experience that I’d sent to a different reader a few weeks prior, I decided it was time to write a blog post sharing what we learned, with the hope that it might be helpful to others too.

If long distance relationship survival doesn’t interest you, feel free to grab a stash of peanut butter chocolate crinkle cookies and be on your way.

If tips for making a long distance relationship work does interest you, take a cookie anyway, and let’s chat!

How our long distance relationship came to be: A year after we started dating, Ben began service in the Peace Corps and was placed in the Dominican Republic. Meanwhile, I lived in Minneapolis, working as an analyst for a Fortune 500 company. Our lives could not have been more different, but we managed to keep our relationship going despite living in what often felt like separate worlds.

Was it worth it? Yes, undoubtably.

What I can’t tell you: Whether or not you should stay in your long distance relationship. Every situation is different, and ultimately, only you and your partner you can decide if the relationship merits the difficulty, heartache, and financial sacrifice that come with making a long distance relationship work.

What I can tell you: Key tips that were critical to helping Ben and me make our long distance relationship (forgive me) go the distance.


9 Tips to Make a Long Distance Relationship Work

#1. Be Your Own Book Club (or participate in a similar, specific activity in each of your respective locations).

Ben and my day-to-days looked nothing alike. While he was teaching entrepreneurial classes in rural communities, I was negotiating production costs with international companies. Reading the same book gave us a relateable connection as we debated themes and empathized with characters. Watching the same TV series, listening to the same podcasts, and reading the same news articles are also excellent activities to share and discuss.

#2. Don’t Feel Pressured to Talk on the Phone for Hours Every Day.

Every day does not need to include an epic, heart-wrenching phone call in which you each feel a Nicholas Sparks-level connection to the other, and sometimes an excess of communication can be a bad thing. Feel confidant if you only have a few minutes to chat on light topics, or if you don’t chat at all. A simple text is an excellent option for those who are in the same country (a “thinking of you” or “miss you” can mean the world). Talking for a longer period a few times a week, versus every day, naturally leaves room for meaningful conversations that go beyond “So, what did you eat for lunch?”

#3. Bring Back Snail Mail.

Sure, texts and phone calls are nice, but a good, old-fashioned card or letter is a better way to demonstrate caring. It takes time to send, and that time will not go unnoticed or unappreciated by your partner. Plus, it’s nice for your partner to be able to pick up and reread a physical card or letter when he or she is missing you.

#4. Always Have Your Next Visit Planned.

I learned this one from my aunt who at one point weathered a long distance relationship from Texas to England. Although cards and a mutual Game of Thrones watch can be helpful, nothing replaces quality, in-person time. Invest weekends (and finances) in visiting each other. When you leave, have the next date on the calendar. That way when you part, instead of tearfully sighing “See you…soon,” you can confidently state, “See you in three weeks.”

#5. Don’t Give In To Jealousy.

It’s a reality of long distance that your partner will be spending more time with other people than he or she does with you. Don’t resent him or her for it. It’s important for both you and your partner to build strong, healthy relationships with friends and co-workers in your immediate vicinities. Long distance is difficult, and you will both benefit from having a strong support network to help you through it. Make an effort to get to know your partner’s friends as well. This way, when he or she tells you stories that begin, “Last night when Jim and I went out,” you’ll know exactly who Jim is and have a clearer picture of your partner’s daily life.

This idea becomes trickier when your partner is friends with someone of your same sex. Ben was close with several girls from the Peace Corps, and at times, I couldn’t help but feel jealous. What made a difference was a) my getting to know these girls and b) being committed to being honest about where our feelings lay. Ultimately, long distance requires trust, and if you are not willing to give it, then a long distance relationship might not be right for you.

#6. Stay Busy.

Don’t let a Skype date with your partner be the only thing you have to look forward to in the evenings. Long distance relationships are much easier to manage when you have a vibrant life outside of them. Join a new club, take an art class, or enroll in French 101 at a local community college. Enjoy your time with family and friends and with yourself too. Just because you are alone doesn’t mean you need to be lonely.

Staying busy is also important because it keeps your expectations for your partner reasonable. If you have commitments of your own, you will be less tempted to feel resentful when your partner needs to cut a phone call short to join friends for drinks.

#7. Video Call Whenever Possible.

Seeing someone’s face, even on screen, has a power that I can’t explain but that was critical for Ben’s and my long distance relationship survival. At two points, we nearly called things off, first him, then me. Both times, we had the discussion over Skype. For me, seeing his face and looking into his eyes while we spoke reminded me of why we were doing this crazy thing in the first place, and we decided to stick with it.

#8. Ask the Big Questions.

i.e. “Where is this going?” I don’t think you need to be 100% positive (0r even 80%) that a relationship is destined for eternity to try long distance, but I do think it’s important to have regular, clear, and honest conversations about what each of your relationship goals are. Can you reasonably see the other person as someone you could spend your life with, if life partnership is something you want? If not, it begs a different big question: “Why are we doing this?”

#9. Have an End Game.

A long distance relationship is not a permanent lifestyle choice. Eventually, you need an end date. This part is difficult. Eventually one (or both) of you will likely need to leave a job, network, and/or preferred city to be with the other. If that conversation feels like too much to tackle, consider setting a deadline for yourselves a few months down the line to have a serious discussion about your next steps, then stick to that deadline. As difficult as long distance relationships are, they are even more difficult when no end date is in sight.

What do you think? Have you ever been in a long distance relationship? If yes, what tips have been helpful for you?

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  1. Erin this is awesome, I agree with all of these! My boyfriend and I are from the same hometown and started dating when I was a sophomore in high school and he was a senior. Then he went to college about 90 minutes away so that wasn’t too bad, because Skype, and I could see him every now and then. But then I went to college 7 HOURS AWAY from him so that was definitely our hardest period of long distance. It was really hard. We also had our “big questions” talk during that time, which helped, because we’re probably going to get married! :) In February, he moved only 2 hours away from me to start his new job and it’s soooo much nicer! I only have 1 more year of college left and then I’ll probably move out his way. We both have our goals but we’re in this for the long haul. <3 Thank you for listening to "The Story of Marina and Cal"….hahahaha 

    1. I loved hearing your story Marina! Thank you so much for sharing it with me :) I’m glad you two are closer together now, and it sounds like you have a good plan in place so that you can be together in the end, which is wonderful. Enjoy your next visit, and enjoy your time apart too! From the outside, it seems like you have so much going for you with your blog and other interests. Cal’s a lucky guy!

  2. Love this. I started dating my fiance in college. A year after we got together I went abroad to Australia. Literally being on the other side of the world we knew if we could make that work for 6 months then perhaps it was meant to be. Emailing helped. I write a lot and being apart led him to write more than a sentence back at least. Different timezones made skype dates challenging but we skyped occasionally. He also paid for a skype plan that he could text and call me with so when I went camping and really needed him to talk to it helped a lot. Then after college we lived 12 hours apart in different states. Phone calls, skype, texting were keys. Once I lost my job I made the move to be in a city 3 hours from him. We just got engaged a few months ago and I still only see him 2 weekends a month. I am setting a deadline for the end of the year though to move again and hopefully the next place we can actually live together. Keeping busy with our own activities helps a ton. For me it’s gym time and cooking, for him building things and helping his family. 

    1. Alicia, what a story you two have! Clearly, you truly love each other and are a great fit to make so many sacrifices, even when you were continents apart. I hope you are together in the same place soon and that your next visit is your best yet! Thanks so much for sharing this.

  3. This is such a great post! My now-husband and I were long distance for three years (almost the entire time we were dating and engaged), and your advice is spot on! #4 is SO key! Always knowing when you’ll see each other next makes saying goodbye a little easier and gives you something to look forward to. #6 is also super important (and I’d argue it’s great advice for all relationships, long distance or not!).

    xx Allison @ alwayseatdessert.com

    1. Allison, it sounds like we went through similar things. Three years is a LONG time tough, wow! I’m so glad that you guys are together now and made it work. Thanks so much for your kind words and sharing your story!

  4. My husband and I were long distance for a year while we were dating when he was deployed–that added a whole different spin to the long distance thing!  For one, all of our communication had to be initiated on his end–I couldn’t call him.  Also, there were long stretches of time where we couldn’t talk because they were moving locations or doing other things he couldn’t disclose.  That was definitely hard.  But Skype was a lifesaver when it worked out to video chat, and I really loved sending him cards, letters, and care packages.   I also think that being apart helped us realize sooner how much we meant to each other and that we wanted to work hard to make our relationship last.  I loved all your tips!

    1. Naomi, WOW. I cannot even imagine how difficult that must have been for you. I am sure every one of your letters and care packages meant the world to your husband, and it really sounds like you two are stronger because of the distance. Thanks so much for sharing your story and for your kind words too!

  5. I love this and everything you said works!! My husband and I were long distance for almost a year before getting married and every single one of your tips were in our life at that time! Long distance actually brought us closer together and really clarified that we were meant to be, since we were force (<-not as harsh as it sounds) to discuss the important 'stuff' and time wasn't wasted at movies and activities, that are enjoyable, but I think often distract people from knowing if they truly have enough in common. I certainly hated begin a part at the time but I am happier in our marriage now that we went through that and I truly knew what I was getting into :) Thanks for these awesome tips, Erin…certainly valuable for those going through this!

    1. Brittany, thank you for sharing this so openly, and I totally agree with you about the importance of honesty. I feel like doing long distance ultimately made our relationship stronger too, and I’m so glad that you and your husband are happily together now!

  6. Great advice, Erin.  I’ve been in long-distance relationships twice, the first with someone I dumped.  In that relationship video calls were very nice.  The second one was conducted mostly by email until we could get together again.  Fortunately, once the second relationship got back to the in person stage, it progressed extremely quickly and we ended up married about 2-½ weeks after we got together.  We met on a long cruise, and he lived in Texas, I lived in Virginia.  We got together at the Outer Banks of NC and haven’t been apart since.  Even with the relationship that (thankfully) didn’t work out, the video calls were very worth while.  It’s worth putting effort into a relationship until you can figure out if it is going to work or not.

    1. What a story Susan! It’s so romantic :) Thank you so much for sharing, and I wish you many more happy years!

  7. This is so brave and honest. I love it! You guys are one of my favorite couples, so I know these tips are GEMS!

  8. This is really good advice, Erin. I just got out if an LDR and I kept making notes of all of these for the future. In our case, we just figured we didn’t have enough history to help us through it, and neither of us was willing to relocate so we could get to know each other. It just wasn’t worth all the time and commitment. I think if a relationship is meant to be, like yours, then long distance can be overcome- no matter how difficult it is.

    1. Sanam, I’m sorry your LDR (<---That's a great abbreviation, by the way) didn't work out, but it sounds like you have an incredibly healthy perspective. History for us was KEY—we'd already known each other for a few years before we started long distance. I can't even imagine how it would have been without that foundation. Thank you so much for sharing your story so openly.

  9. I can really empathise with anyone in such a relationship.  My late husband and I met just as he was posted overseas.  We spent 18 months apart before our marriage.  It was hard, so very hard but a letter every day helped so much.  There was no such thing as Skype back in the early sixties and phone calls abroad way too expensive.  After our marriage we spent a lot of time apart but for the last twenty odd years we were together.  The memories of those years help me to get through each day now.

    Your advice will, I am sure, help so many others.  I wish somebody had given me such help but we made it and had 47 happy years.

    Thanks Erin.

    1. Sonia, this is a beautiful reflection, and I am in awe of you and your husband. Thank you so much for sharing your story!

  10. Thanks for the honest post, Erin! This is great. I love all your pointers and they’re all so true. My husband and I were actually living in different countries when we first met (on a dating website….): he in the military in Germany and me living in London. Skype, messenger apps, my fondness for sappy postcards, and more budget flights to and from Germany than I care to remember were what kept us going. Now, we’re married and together and I love being with my best, dorky, handsome friend all the time! 

    1. Katie, I love that you called your husband your “best, dorky, handsome friend”! To me that says you know each other so well, and it’s clear you love each other for who you really are. I also have a fondness for sappy post cards :) Thanks so much for sharing this!

  11. Great post! I was in the Peace Corps as well (rpcv Ecuador) and having a long distance relationship while serving as a volunteer is especially tricky.  My now husband and I met in law school and have never had to work through a long distance relationship, but these are tips that can really help any relationship: communication, respect, trust. 

    I’ve been reading your blog about a year and I love your recipes. Keep up the good work!

    1. Rebecca, I’m going through comments and just realized I missed yours! It seems like we have a lot in common, between law school and the Peace Corps. You couldn’t have said it better—communication, respect, and trust are at the heart of any strong relationship. Thanks so much for reading my blog and your kind words about my recipes too!

  12. I’m visiting to get a recipe but couldn’t resist clicking this post. My husband and I were long distance for a year – an eight hour drive apart, although luckily in the same time zone. These tips are gold! #s 8 and 9 especially resonate…a lot of people, especially earlier on in relationships, are so reluctant to ask those big questions and make long-term plans, but you really have to go there if you are going to stay motivated to do the extra work the long distance requires. Thanks for sharing!

    Now I’m off to plan dinner :)

    1. Thank you Shannon! It’s so nice to hear from you, and to learn a little bit about you and your husband too. I hope you loved whatever you ended up making for dinner :-)

  13. As I was reading through this I just kept nodding my head and thinking “yes, so accurate” to each and every point. My boyfriend is moving in with me next month after spending 3 years in graduate schools 11 hours apart, and we have definitely utilized all of these tips! My personal favorite we did was combine #1 and #7, once a week we would have “long distance date night” which consisted of face-timing while watching a tv show or movie.

    1. Taylor, I’m so happy to hear that you and your boyfriend will be together again at last! Also, I absolutely love your long distance date night idea. That is so neat, and I’m going to suggest it to friends in long distance relationships too. Thank you for sharing!

  14. This article was spot on! My husband took a job in Texas, we live in Atlanta, because of a higher paying opportunity to work in a field that he wZbted to get back into for years. I’m going to try the book club idea. The main thing that’s driving me nuts is the calling situation. I work kn sales and I’m a natural introvert and I hate the telephone so by the time my long days are over the last thing I want to do is give or hear a blow by blow of every minor detail (my hubby’s a big time talker). I would love just being able to text a brief message  sometimes. It makes me feel a lot of pressure but I don’t think he’d me receptive if I told him. I trust him,  very secure with myself but he needs a lot of interaction. He doesn’t have many friends and the ones he does have are here in Georgia. Any suggestions?  

    1. Hi Jill! I can certainly relate. My husband is a natural introvert, while I welcome every opportunity to be social. About a year before we became engaged, we came to a bit of a crossroads: my husband often turned down opportunities to do things together, preferring instead more quiet alone time, which I attributed to him having a boring or uninvested personality. But the most important thing we did was talk about it. I came to understand that, especially after long weeks of work, quiet time was what he needed to “recharge.” I recognized that’s simply how he is wired, so to speak. Our compromise became that we usually spend Friday nights at home just the two of us, and then Saturdays and Sundays we would plan more social meetings or events. The important point is to have an honest conversation in which each person shares what he/she feels that he/she needs in order to give his/her best in the relationship, and then to find the balance in making sure each person gives somewhat to accommodate the other’s needs without entirely sacrificing his/her own needs. As cliché as it is: communication is the best step toward a more balanced, healthier relationship for each person. I hope that you and your husband are able to find a balance that works for you!

  15. Thank you, Erin! I’m in my eighth month of long distance with my boyfriend and I can feel myself slipping involuntarily into a few of the things you warn against (e.g. feeling a little jealous of his friends and resentful when FT/Skypes don’t happen as planned). I’m printing out your blog and putting it on my wall to remind me to be forgiving – it’s hard when you have to wait 24 hours to talk again or two months for a freakin’ hug! Anyway, thank you. It’s nice to be reminded it’s possible to get through it and to remember if things aren’t immensely serious, one can kick the moving/career/marriage discussion down the road.

    1. Hi Brandy, eight months is SO ROUGH. I’m so glad that you found this post helpful. Long distance is really difficult, but it is possible. Hang in there, and I hope you are able to see your boyfriend soon!

  16. Hi Erin! 

    This post really gives me hope as I venture off to China for the Peace Corps this June. My boyfriend won’t be able to come visit me until after the first 6 months, but how did you and your SO manage that distance? We want to visit each other every 5-6 months, but I just need some encouraging words that gives me hope. We are already long distance with an hour apart and see each other almost every weekend, but this will be a longer span of time between one another. We both have set expectations of being together and me moving in when I get back, but whatever advice you have for me…..send it my way! Thank you <3

    Britt

    1. Hi Britt! First of all, congrats on your Peace Corps placement! It’s a wonderful program and has impacted Ben in an incredibly positive way. Several of his Peace Corps friends were even in our wedding. I won’t sugar coat things for you: the first 6 months are really, really difficult. You are going to be experiencing so many new, exciting things, but your boyfriend’s routine will be somewhat the same as it is now, minus you. My first suggestion is to make a commitment to talk at regular intervals and share as much about your experience as you can so that he can feel a part of it and encourage him to keep you up to date on his life also. I’d also suggest reading the same book or doing some kind of similar activity as I mentioned in the post, so that you still have concrete things in common. Finally, you just have to trust that, if you are meant to be together and if you can both be patient and make sacrifices, things will work out as they should in the end. <3

      1. Your words are very helpful! I appreciate you in everyday :) 
        How did you manage the first 6 months without your husband? 
        I want to give my boyfriend as many tips as possible for that time apart. 
        He is actually really excited to take some time to work on himself, but still commit to me. A good sign I assume? Your thoughts?

        -Britt

        1. Hi Britt! I’m afraid I don’t have anything addition to share, beyond what I’ve written in the post. I think you and the BF need to have expectations about how often you will talk (at least ideally), and what direction you both want to see the relationship going. It’s so personal and different for everyone, so I hesitate to share more, because I can’t say what it will be like for you two. During our first 6 months, I was stayed really busy. I was in a new city, starting a new job, and making new friends, so being constantly occupied definitely helped. We also talked at least every other day, so that helped too.

  17. Hi Erin,

    I want to start by saying that your story is very inspiring and definitely needs to be hear by others. I am also in the same situation that you are in. My girlfriend and I have have been in a relationship for four years, with this past April 4th, marking our four year anniversary. I am going  to be honest with you I love this women more than reality itself. She is my first everything and the only women I ever loved, besides my own mother. When she first mentioned the peace corps I was the first on board in her corner to support her. While it would hurt me to see so much to see her go , I just could never hold her back from achieving her goal and dreams. She is about to leave for Rwanda in a few weeks and I really just don’t know what to do with myself. For the past few days I have been reading blogs about long distance relationships and the peace corps, and all I have seen, is negative outcomes. My girlfriend and I have spoke about the challenges this journey would present, and the only thing I could think about is what if she falls in love with someone else. I try to get rid of the negative thoughts, but I know that this is a potential reality of being away from someone for two years. Im not sure what else to say , besides I just cant loose this women. I know there will be challenges, and temptations that we will both face, but I will do anything to keep her in my life.

    Do you have any thoughts or opinions ?

    I also want to follow in your footsteps and create a blog myself. I know we are not the only ones that will have this experience, and I want to provide a platform for others in our positions (those that are at home) to comfortably and safely share their experiences, challenges and thoughts, as we all embark on this journey. I was wondering if you have any suggestions on how I can do this?

    1. Tyree, thank you for sharing so openly. I can see clearly how deeply you love your girlfriend and want her to be able to pursue her dream of volunteering with the Peace Corps. You’ve asked some deep, difficult questions, and to be honest, it’s really hard for me to give you specific advice, because every relationship and situation is different (and I am no expert!). Every tip I have, I did share in my post. The best advice I can give you is to continue to have open, honest conversations with your girlfriend about where you both see your relationship going and how committed to it you want to be. Neither of you will serve the other well by sugar coating the difficulty of the situation or your own feelings. If either of you does meet someone else, you need to tell each other that too, and I’d advise you to make it clear to her that, if she does meet someone, she should tell you. I say this because you’ve shared that this is a fear of yours. You need to trust her, and to trust that, if she were to meet someone, she would tell you (and vice versa!). Try to always have set times to visit each other, even if they are months apart. Last, if you want to start a blog, you absolutely should! I actually have a whole page that outlines the different resources I use for my blog here: https://www.wellplated.com/food-blog-photography-resources/. I hope it is helpful! Wishing you and your girlfriend all the best. Long distance relationships, while difficult, CAN succeed, so while I encourage you to go into it with your eyes open, by no means is it hopeless.

      1. Thank you Erin for your wonderful advice and tips. I greatly appreciate it. I now understand that while there will be challenges and temptations that my girlfriend and I will face, the most important thing is to be as transparent and honest with one another as much as possible. While this journey will be tough, I am looking forward to saying that we made it together through this experience in the end.  You have definitely helped me gain a more positive outlook on this future experience. Once again I want to say thank you ,and I appreciate your words.

  18. Thank you so much for this arricle, my boyfriend just left for a better job not too far from me…but still far enough that we can’t see each other everyday, just the occasional weekend. I can’t move for a year and it is killing me and I keep asking myself if we could really make this work

    1. You’re welcome, Samantha! I’m glad this post could be of some help. Long distance is never easy, and I wish the best to both of you.

  19. Great tips. Long distance relationship is not easy, but if the two of are determine to reach the sky, you will surely get there on time. Thanks for sharing!

  20. I have certainly enjoyed reading your post and also all the comments left below. I am now in month 5 of my LDR. I live in the UK and he live in the US….4369miles apart. I must say that I agree with all your points. Communication is a big thing for us as is planning ahead. We plan to see each other at least every 3 months. It’s a big commitment financially but we have had open honest conversations about the magnitude of what we are doing and both made commitments to make it work. We met 11 years ago and that didn’t work out, we were both young and I guess on different paths. We always kept in touch throughout those years but when we started speaking a few months ago something just clicked into place. I love that we are on a journey together and that we are forced to discuss things other people may shy away from. Making plans helps so much and he is worth all the distance between us. Hopefully one day (for now we have a 2 year plan) we will be able to bridge that gap. So I am focussed on working towards that with him.

  21. Hey Erin, me and my boyfriend are in a long-distance relationship now. He lives in America for 10 months because of his studies and I live in Europe. Thanks for shaming your tips, unfortunately we haven’t skypen het because he hasn’t time for that. We uwe messenger and snapchat to keep in touch of eachother but it isn’t always easy.. He can’t always text back and sometimes there are days where I hear nothing from him. He’s friends with a lot of girls there so it isn’t always easy to bear, we’re now 4 months far so 6 months to go. I hope it Will work out. 

  22. Hi Erin,

    Thanks for sharing your tips.

    I’m just 3 weeks into LDR with my boyfriend of 1 year plus. This LD is supposed to last for almost two years with 6 hours time difference.

    It’s crazy already, but I believe we can do it.

    Thanks once more for sharing.

    1. Hi Camaa, I’m glad you found these tips helpful—as you already know, long distance is never easy. Wishing both of you the best!

  23. This article was awesome! It does male feel better about my boyfriend and my relationship. We do talk on the phone, when we can. And we just love video chatting. I love to video chat better than phone calls. I told myself I wasn’t gonna do another long distant relationship, but it was something different about him. We are in similar situations, we are both single parents. He is so much more respectful than the other guys I’ve dated. He compliments me everything we video chat or talk on the phone. And yes about the moving part of your article is what is on my mind lately, but I know we will work it out! Thanks so much for this article

    1. Alicia, thank you so much for sharing <3 And congrats on what sounds like a wonderful new relationship in your life. Wishing you both all the best!!

  24. Thanks for this advice! My boyfriend and I have been dating since January 1st, and I’m taking a break from college and he’s moving 4 hours away to a different college in August. I’ve been really worried about how to do long distance, but you’ve given me a peace of mind as we start the long distance relationship. 

    1. Madelyn, I am so glad this post was helpful to you. All of the best to you and your boyfriend! I know it’s hard but have faith that things will work out as they are meant to be.

  25. This is amazing. I started a relationship long distance and 8 months later, we’re still at it. But really struggling with the distance and we have an end plan if me picking up to move this summer. The 1 year mark. I’m saving this to my Pinterest board and going to write some questions down to ask him next time me FaceTime. Thank you for not being the majority that says “long distance NEVER works!”